written by my US fiance:
I am marrying a filipina. I cannot say I am excited about it because I honestly feel married to her already. My heart belongs to her and ’till death do we part.” For me, the marriage started when I met her and fell into her loving gaze. From the moment I saw her smile I was swept off my feet and terrified of falling for love again. But I knew I had to take a chance. Thats when I said “I DO“.. years ago.
I have heard stereotypes of filipino women from friends and co-workers. They say filipinas only wanting money or to escape the Philippines. My response to them is that I am aware that there are bad people in the Philippines. I am aware that there are desperate people in bad situations, but you know there are bad, desperate people in bad situations EVERYWHERE and in EVERY country, even the US.. Especially the US. I have not just heard of it I have seen it in many countries. I chose to do more than generalize. I am a realist. People are individuals. They are more than a race, gender, nationality or religion.
Other than that I cannot even put into words what her and I have. Language can not express how great she is. She is more than a woman and more than human. She is my hero. She is an inspiration who I am so lucky to talk to every day. She is more than a friend and more than a lover.
Ultimately, I see marrying a filipina as a very positive thing. But I will tell you this, Its not at all about her BEING filipina. The fact that she is from the Philippines is not a factor for me. Yes, I love the filipino culture. I love pancit and Adobo and Chocolate Hills and YES, I think filipinas are attractive, loving and great, however my personal desire stretches way beyond race and nationality, ethnicity and creed.
I expect this woman, my love, my life, my wife, to put in 100% of herself into US because that is what I do.
Things will not always be pleasant, we will not always have sunny days. Sometimes things will get rough and sometimes we will have bitter cold winter seasons, flash floods and tsunamis. I expect my partner to weather these storms with me. I expect my partner to be back to back with me when the world comes at us with pitch forks and torches, I expect her the help me fight in the dimly lit alleyways by the shadowy dancing light.
Yes, I am marrying a filipina. But I do not care what her race is. Put forth the effort to build something with me and I will make you the queen of my life and the keeper my heart for as long it beats.
yours truly, Bruce.