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Help spouse with money issues (international couple relationship counseling)

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How can a foreign spouse help with money issues?
This is a question that came in from one of our subscribers, Veronica D. Thank you Veronica for your question.

Here is what Yuri and I did to get ourselves in a better financial situation:

1. Know the financial situation. First off we had to sit down and talk about what was going on financially and where we want to be in the next few years. We created goals about debt, credit, income and assets.
2. Create/Fix Credit. My credit was pretty bad so this limited our options on what we could do financially. We established Yuri’s credit by adding her to a new line of credit that I got (at Sam’s Club We made small purchases to increase her credit. We made sure we paid all my credit and loans down or off.
3. Get an Income. A foreign spouse can fix lots of money issues with a job, a business, or other assets that have an income. That extra income can help with debt.
4. Emergency savings. Have an emergency savings that you can uses when times get rough. This is not to be confused with long-term savings. This is money that is set aside only when you need it.

The main point is to be on the same page with financial issues. This was a big leap for us. Because we are both very independent and had very different views about money.

One thing that helped us get on the same mindset was a book called Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and another called 10X Rule, by Grant Cardone.

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Bigger Goals Take More Work – Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA)

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Yuri has decided to become a Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA).  It is a hard job.  Yuri has a full time job while going to school while doing part time business.  We are on the grind.

It has been a lot of time apart as she goes to school and as I continue to work. We are blessed to have work and so many opportunities, but sometimes it is hard.

Thank you to all our subscribers and all our patrons!

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Cleaning up Litter in Colorado

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A week or so back, we went to #goldcamp road in the mountains to hang out. It give a great view of Colorado Springs, Colorado. Unfortunately, there is trash all over the place.

We decided to return and do a little cleaning.
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REAL men? and Immigrant Women getting abused in America – WElationship


Every now and then we get these stories about women coming to America on a spousal or fiance visa and getting mistreated by the US petitioner. It does not happen that often, but its way more often than you might think.

We just want to send a quick message to those going through this.


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Online Date FAIL: Co-worker looking for a date online (#WElationship)

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My coworker has been looking for a date online. Unfortunately, it did not go well. But hopefully she will keep trying.


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Response from Lu & Toiya:  Me and Lu are literally sitting here discussing this video right now… After careful consideration and MUCH back-and-forth discussion with each other… side by side, we co-wrote this together: From what we observe, it seems like your friend isn’t “up on game”.

Is she Phil-AM? Only asking because we don’t have “courting” here or any of that stuff. It’s a damn JUNGLE out here. Does she have any experience dealing with young, good looking “in demand” guys? She fell for the ol’ MGTOW / Pick up artist move. This was a classic “hit it and quit it”. Player handbook (chapter one).

In, 2017.. ESPECIALLY when dating online from the dating sites like Tinder etc, she needs to be aware that things are not the same as they are in more conservative countries or even as they were in the U.S.only a few years ago. Daters online can NOT assume that the girls and guys they meet online are necessarily looking for a “life partner” or “soul mate”. A majority of young people these days are all about “hook up culture” by default. Even if a guy SAYS that he is looking for the same thing you are when you are 1st meeting them… that could just be “Game”. She should take all that “telling her what I think she wants to hear” stuff with a grain of salt in the initial stages. She is looking for a “Tall, good looking, professional white guy”… chances are, his profile gets at LEAST 3 hits a day from girls just like her. For all she knows she could just be a “notch” on his “belt”. ….”lets go out for coffee, said the spider, to the fly”… When he says “you’re too good for me” and “we don’t have chemistry” after chasing the kitty-cat for 2 weeks and then “scoring”… what he REALLY means is: “I’m at the T.H.O.T. stages of my life and don’t want to be tied down to one girl right now” The guy knew he had “chemistry” with her the minute he saw her profile pic. For women “chemistry” is like: “when I look into his eyes I can see forever, purple sunsets and the father of my children” For men, “Chemistry” is basically: “damn, she fine”. Guys need MORE than just “chemistry” to commit in any meaningful way. The guy “dipped” on her NOT because her and the guy didn’t have “chemistry” it was because he felt pressure to commit and wasn’t feelin’ it. Putting it bluntly and with all due respect…. “he’s just wasn’t that into her” Critique over… Solution time: We know plenty of happily married couples who met online but it was only after they developed the skills to recognize potential in a person that they were meeting. AKA “Vetting”. Her main obstacle is not WHERE she is finding the guy, it’s about her VETTING. She is not up on game enough to properly vet these guys she’s meeting. If she keeps doing like she’s doing she’s going to get “got” time and time again. until she learns more about how young American guys and young American girls in the current dating scene “play the dating game”, and until she has enough experience in recognizing BS she needs a “middle person” to vet these guys BEFORE she even starts thinking about going forward with dating for marriage. she should stay offline for now (at least for a while) because her vetting skills aren’t on the level to tell the playboys from the squares and her preference for the guy with the best looking profile pick WILL set her up for failure until she knows what she’s doing in regards to recognizing personality traits and intentions. a better approach would be to have a guy friend who cares about her or a girl friend who has her back introduce her to someone who THEY have already vetted as a good guy. And then open her mind to giving those guys that her friends chose a chance. also, she should not set her “looks” bar so high. Simply put: Guys who look for the “hottest” girl tend to run into gold diggers. Girls who look for the “tallest, hottest guy” tend to run into players. No offence, but looking for the guy with the best looking profile pic on a dating site is like looking for the prettiest horse on the cock carousel. (please excuse our language, we’re just trying to be franc, sincere and helpful) She needs to focus on character FIRST. Sometimes those “nice guys” she might have put in “Friend Zone” might be the best potential long term loves but she might be overlooking those guys. (big mistake) before she goes to church looking for love she might want to take a 2nd look at the “nice guys” inside her own social circle. (even if the DON’T look like Magic Mike)

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Judicial Branch Bans Presidential Trumps Visa Ban 2

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4 feb, 2017, The Visa ban on 7 countries has been temporarily suspended.

The Judicial branch of the government just banned President Trump’s ban… but will President Trump ban the ban that banned his ban!

On 27 Jan, 2017 Present Trump signed Executive Order “Protecting the Nation from Terrorist Attacks by Foreign Nationals”. (Executive Order 13769)  Which banned immigrant and nonimmigrant visa for citizens of 7 different countries (Iraq, Iran, Sudan, Somalia, Sudan, Yemen, Libya).  

This affected student, family, fiance, special visas from citizens of these countries.  Initially, it even affected green card holders from those countries but President Trump just made a revision

On February 1, White House Counsel Don McGahn issued a memorandum to the heads of State, Justice, and Homeland Security departments clarifying that the ban provisions of the executive order do not apply to lawful permanent residents

On February 2, a federal judge in Detroit ruled that the order not be applied to permanent residents nationwide and permanently, given the White House’s prior declaration that the order did not apply to permanent residents, in the case Arab-American Civil Rights League v. Trump.

On February 3, Federal Judge Robart removed the ban on immigrants/nonimmigrants and refugees from those 7 countries with a temporary restraining order.  Visa holders and refugees going through the process or on there way to the US are being allowed in by the Department of Homeland Security.  The State Department and their Embassies in those 7 countries are now processing visas again.   

On February 3, U.S. District Judge James L. Robart on Friday entered a temporary but nationwide stop to the order, saying he concluded the court “must intervene to fulfill its constitutional role in our tripart government.”

DHS has suspended any and all actions implementing the affected sections of the Executive Order entitled, “Protecting the Nation from Foreign Terrorist Entry into the United States.”


“We have reversed the provisional revocation of visas,” the State Department official said in a statement. “Those individuals with visas that were not physically canceled may now travel if the visa is otherwise valid.”

Thank you for great conversations.  We don’t always agree but its really cool to talk to people that think and research instead of believing what fits their narrative the cool thing is that some of their logic and facts made me really think about my own positions on this issue and that is why its good to talk.




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Active Passive Income (Jan 2017)

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#yuribruce reveal the active vs. passive income for the month of January. Things are going pretty good. We are very happy even though the numbers for YouTube have been cut in half, the other income streams are going well.

As we increase our passive income streams we are seeing changes slowly happen in our life as there is less stress from issues about money.

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