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What Americans fear when they bring their foreign spouse to America?

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We hear a lot of stories about issues between Americans and there foreign spouses. There are a few concerns from the American spouses sponsoring a foreign fiances/spouses. They think that their foreign spouse will change once they get to the US.

The American spouse sometimes thinks that maybe they will become super materialistic. Or listen to bad advice. Sometimes this nightmare comes true.

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How to overcome homesickness?

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Hi, I made this video to help other immigrants or expats who are in the same situation as me. Although, I am happy in the US, I still miss the country where I grew up. I miss the street food and the chaotic environment lol. I hope this also help you guys to overcome homesickness. It is better to share and talk to people about what you feel. It is a therapy. It helps.

 

It feels great to be here. And now I am permanently living with my husband everyday. It is very rewarding. I feel complete. But I truly miss the food in the Philippines. I miss my sister. Hopefully one day, I can go back and we can live in a peaceful area in the Philippines.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsV2YiMm93Y

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Top 5+1 Cultural differences Between – American and Filipino

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We choose to celebrate our difference.  We don’t ignore them, we don’t blow them out of proportion.  We talk about it, we acknowledge them and ask questions about the differences.  We are actually interested in each others culture. It is sometimes shocking, surprising and or annoying! 🙂

Here are the top 5 things we have noticed:

Gestures.  We have different gestures, different ways to point, for example.  Yuri point with her lips sometimes.  Which is very interesting.  In the US, we sometimes point with a head nod but not usually with lips.

“mmm” means yes.  This can be confusing because Filipinos will make the sound “mm” and it can mean yes.  In the US, the sound “mm” can mean “this tastes good” or “hmm, let me think about that” but it does not mean YES, but the sound “mm, hmm” can mean yes.

Reusing Plastic Jars.  Actually some Americans do reuse plastic bags and jars so this is not that big of a difference, but Filipinos are pros at this.

Gender Pronouns.  The filipino language does not have an equivalent for “he” and “her”.  So sometimes Yuri switches the gender pronouns of guys and girls.  For example, she might say “Where is John?  Is SHE here.”  It is because the filipino language and cebuano really does not have an equivalent word.

Singing (ALL the Time).  Lots of people in American sing in the shower or hum a tune while doing chores, but in the Philippines, they take it to another level.  They feel about singing what Americans think about Football or Brits think about tea and soccer.  It is a big deal and it is like a national pass time.

 

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Racism in the US

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When I first arrived in the United States I had no clue what racism was.  I never knew that it was such a serious issue in America particularly for black people.

First of all what is Racism?

Racism is the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.

I used to wonder why my husband (an African-American) would sometimes become sensitive on certain issues involving race.  His sensitivity to the issue came from his experiences with racism.  It is something that is new to me.

While there is injustice and people who are mistreated in the Philippines, it is different from the U.S.  For example, in the Philippines discrimination is just a part of life.  Criticizing a person who is poor is simply an accepted part of life.  It not a matter of race usually just a matter of socio-economic situation.  The worst thing about it is that we don’t even have a word for it.  In some ways, this is much worse.  At least there is a conversation about injustice in America.

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courtesy of upenn.edu

Coming here has opened up my eyes what racism and injustice is all about.  It is the equivalent of being poor, abuse and mistreatment in the Philippines because they don’t have the resources to fight back.

On November 22, 2014, in Cleveland, Ohio, two police officers, 26-year-old Timothy Loehmann and 46-year-old Frank Garmback, responded after receiving a police dispatch call “of a male black sitting on a swing and pointing a gun at people”.  The black male was 12 year old Tamir Rice he had a toy gun.  The responding police officers drove within a few feet of the child and shot him dead.

This is a country built and dreamed up by immigrants.  December 18, 1865 is when slavery ended.  On January 20, 2009 President Obama was elect as the first Black President of the United States.  The United States has come a long way with equality and race relations. But It is very disappointing to see so much hate and misunderstandings still happening.  So many people died to stop the discrimination, inequality and racism.  Black women are still not treated equally by some police officers because of their color and black men are automatically accused suspicious activity even when they are only walking in the sidewalks. This is a very emotional topic for me as I see and feel the pain of people experiencing it.

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courtesy of i-am-bored.com

Institutionalized racism in the U.S. also shocked me.  I thought it does not exist here. It seems like a black person has to work twice as harder to be acknowledged.  When a black person is successful in the US it means that they have been through a lot but rose up from all of the hardships.

Being in the United States has given me comfort, convenience and shown me that life can be wonderful.  It is a blessing to live in America.  My only hope is for unity, equality and peace.  America is a land of freedom that offers opportunities for everybody.

As a nation, America is always taking action to be a hero saving the world.  Why doesn’t the country start saving its own people, acknowledge and solve its own problems?  Something is wrong.  Yes, there have been actions taken to minimize racism.  The U.S. Constitution’s 5th Amendment states that the Federal Government not deprive individuals of “life, liberty, or property” without due process of the law and an implicit guarantee that each person receive equal protection of the laws.  And the 14th Amendment explicitly prohibits states from violating an individual’s rights of due process and equal protection regardless of gender, religion or race.  But discrimination still exists.  It is still there. Let us change this. People are suffering because of this. This has to stop. This needs a solution and only we can fix it.

Perhaps because of human nature, it may never be completely erased but we can try.  We are all ONE race, the human race.

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Mbayi Ambo Scam – fb groups

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Mbayi Ambo is offering members of facebook groups a passport for $150.00.  For $150 dollars she claims that she can get an exemptions from the medical examination AND exemption from appearing of the US Embassy interview.

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If it sounds too good be true it probably is.  This is a scam for sure.  Even if you get a fake visa/passport and bypass the medical and Interview, the US Customs Border Protection requires a package that you can only get from the Embassy.

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This is a warning to everyone who is going for a US Visa.

Mbayi Ambo claims that she is from New York but her profile says Ontario,Canada. She is also using fake photos in her profile in Facebook.

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