filipino mail order brides

by Yuri Sincero

filipino mail order brides

Many women from the Philippines are looking for more stability and supportive spouses that they may not have found locally.  They are not looking for a date or a handout, they are looking for a husband.  They mean business and want to get to the point.  Filipino mail order brides get registered into a catalogue or online database hoping that a foreign man will choose her.

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What are filipino mail order brides?

This is a filipina who lists herself in a catalog or online database specifically to be selected by a man for marriage.  The “mail order” part of filipino mail order bride is a bit on an old term.  Because its not necessarily done by snail mail anymore.  But before the Internet, many men from developed countries would literally look in a catalog with pictures and descriptions of women (many from Europe and later from Southeast Asia) to find a wife.

amerapparelhalloweenThere are not only filipino mail order brides.  Many of these mail order brides would be from developing countries within Europe, Latin America and all over Southeast Asia.  So these women were hoping for a better life and the men were looking for a good wife.  It seemed to be a win-win situation.  Now that it is easier to do this service mostly online the term “mail-order” is really outdated.  Now there are even “mail order husbands”.  Times have changed.

Is a filipino mail order bride site like a dating site?

Its not a dating site, where members bounce from one to another like a night club.  There is a big difference, filipino mail order brides are ready to get married not mess around with guys that may only be interested in vulgar cam shows, or brief sex tourism one night stands.  They are filipino women looking to get a husband.

Why filipinas become mail order brides?

They have their own reasons.  Some are very traditional, don’t want to date and seek real love and marriage with a foreign man.  Some are looking to change their condition with a foreign visa.  Each filipino mail order bride has her own reasons.

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Abuse of filipino mail order brides?  

Due to the rushed nature of the “mail order bride” arrangement, there has not been much consideration of whether or not the man getting the bride is actually who he says he is and what his intentions are.  The filipina bride goes under the care of her new husband only to find herself in the hands of a man with a mental illness or evil tyrant.

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Some filipina mail order brides have been abused and/or killed.  Like the case of the murderer Timothy C. Blackwell taking the life of filipino mail order bride, Susana Remerata.  They married after two day of correspondence.  The were together two weeks in the US only weeks with things fell apart and she wanted a divorce.  Timothy shot Susana in the court room.

Staff from the King County Prosecuting Attorney’s Office’s Domestic Violence Unit with Prosecutor Satterberg at API/Chaya candlelight vigil for DV victims April 18, 2013 (Photo King County)

Some men from developing countries marry the women in order to exploit.  Because of these cases, the Philippine government prohibits the business of organizing or facilitating marriages between Filipinas and foreign men. This was enacted by the Philippine congress with the Republic Act 6955 (the Anti-Mail-Order Bride Law) on June 13, 1990.

 

The conclusion of filipina mail order brides

Pinay brides remain among the most popular foreign mail order brides second only to Russian brides.  And despite the bad cases that pushed the Anti-Mail-Order Bride Law its still booming.  Filipinas still actively sign up for mail order bride services based in other countries. They can also use the Mail Order Husband service to get around the law.  Other countries and states have also started laws to protect the rights of filipino mail order brides.  President George Bush signed the “International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005″  H.R. 3402: Violence Against Women and Department of Justice Reauthorization Act of 2005.  Over all I have a positive view of the mail order bride process and I would not call it “buying a wife”.  But since organizations charge so much to process all the papers between the hopeful couples I would recommend just purchasing a membership on a dating site and taking more time to figure out who will be a good filipina wife.