They say when you marry a filipina, you marry the whole family. After being married to one for 2 years now, I would say there is some truth to it. But I do understand it. Many westerners who marry filipinas either complain or vow never to support a filipinas family. It can become an issue if you don’t talk about it.
If you are familiar with Filipino culture and how strong the family ties are, then you should understand who important it is to be open to helping. If you understand the absolute poverty exits in most parts of the Philippines, you would think there would be some empathy from westerners. The combination of strong family and rampant poverty in the Philippines makes it almost inevitable that there be a need for help.
If a western husband decides that he will not help his wife’s family no matter what, this becomes a “red flag” to the filipina. If the roles were reversed and something bad happened to the westerner’s family and the filipina did not care, what would this mean to the relationship. There is double standard for some westerners.