We met on a dating site! We are very much in love so for us it was a huge success. We had to spend a LOT of time on more than one dating site. Between the two of us we probably use about 20 different dating sites and met 100’s of people to find the right person. We have learned a LOT about what not to do on dating sites. Here are the top three things not to do:
- Do not send money – If someone you meet is asking for money after meeting on a dating site there is a very, very good chance that it is a scam. ESPECIALLY, if they are from a developing country. DO NOT send money to someone you just met on a dating site. It sounds obvious, but the thing is these people are pretty slick. They earn your trust and sympathy and then they ask for you help as a “friend”. This is a dating site not a charity. How can they afford the cost of electricity, computer, Internet and/or internet cafe but have to ask you for money?
- Do not get serious until you meet in person – There are exceptions to this rule. We know people who have been in a relationship for years and not actually met in person yet. But most people need to meet. There is a certain chemistry that you need if you are planning on spending your life with someone. There are many small things that you won’t notice until you meet in person. And some people are completely different in person than they are online.
- Do not believe photos. Request video chat – Do not be fooled by pictures! It is just too easy to fake. A common practice is to use glamour shots of another person and upload them all on the profile. You MUST see them on video chat, live in real time. Not a recording but a live, real-time video chat. So you know they are who they say they are. If they make excuses as to why they cannot meet you, then something is up.
There are a lot of scammers making a living from romance scams. This is has become such a popular thing to do that it even has a name, “catfishing” it is where you lure (someone) into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. Do not fall for this.